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Does my cat find me annoying?

Cats can come across as quite cantankerous creatures at the best of times.

If you were to base your perceptions on facial expressions and demeanour alone, you could be forgiven for thinking that your flinty-faced felines held a perpetual grudge.

Cats tend to appreciate their own company and they’ll break their self-inflicted isolation if and when they’re ready for a little bit of attention and affection.

Imposing yourself on their alone time and invading their personal space — by trying to force moments of TLC upon them — will only frustrate and aggravate those feisty fur balls, and they’ll let you know about it.

But their quirkiness and independence shouldn’t always be misinterpreted as spite or annoyance. Cats are forgiving animals and will generally accept the arm of friendship when offered.



What are the signs your cat finds you annoying (or is mad at you?)


  • The look of loathe: Cats like to be waited on hand and foot, so our precious pets might become slightly perturbed if their schedule has fallen out of sync and they grow impatient. Cats like to be regular, in everything they do, and they’ll be sure to give you the ‘look’ if you stand in the way of their predictability.


  • Nipping: Cats can quite literally bite the hand that feeds them. Your pesky pets will appear playful in the first instance but, if they’re feeling aggrieved, they can quickly turn aggressive. Cats can often lure their human companions into a false sense of security when begging to be petted – but will then turn to bite or scratch their pet parents.


  • Keeping a distance: If your famously tactile and touch-feely tabby is being actively evasive, they’re trying to tell you that something isn’t quite right. It might just be the case that you have done something to annoy your peevish pet, or it might simply be that they’re in a state of shock, panic or confusion from a situation completely unrelated.


  • Growling/snarling: It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to distinguish between whether a cat is feeling delighted or disgruntled. Angry cats vocalise their displeasure through a range of noises/sounds, similar to what’s on display when they’re in conflict with another kitty. Growling, purring, snarling are all indicators that they need their space.


  • Dirty protests: Most pet parents will have experienced a ‘surprise package’ being left in unexpected areas around the house. These small ‘gifts’ are your cat’s way of informing you that they’re not best pleased with something. Urination or defecation might seem like they’re rebelling, or hitting out, but in reality it’s a coping mechanism to help deal with concerns such as separation anxiety.


  • Hide ‘n’ seek: Out of sight, out of mind. At least, that’s how your cats will want it to be. If your ticked off tail-wagger is camping out in an unusual spot, and they don’t look as though they want to be detected, then just offer them the time and space they clearly crave. Though the reason for their annoyance might not be known, you should resist the urge to drag or entice them out of their den.


  • Flat eared: Upset cats can project their emotions through the positioning of their ears. When they’re flat to the head, and pointing out to the side, it’s an indicator that you, or someone/something else, has behaved in a way that has displeased them. It’s probably the safest option to avoid interaction in these cases.


  • Feisty balls of fluff: It’s just like painting a picture that stereotypically depicts an angry and annoyed feline. Arched back, bushy tailed, straight legged and fluffed out fur. Our pets usually adopt this stance when feeling threatened – ahead of a cat fight for example – as it makes them appear bigger and more intimidating.


  • Refusing to eat: Some cats will protest or rebel by going on a ‘hunger strike’. It might be a reaction to an uncomfortable or unfamiliar situation, a result of conflicting emotions, or disturbance in their daily schedule. However, pet parents should keep a close eye on their behaviour as it could also be a consequence of illness or injury.


  • Scratching furniture: Feisty felines know how to push the buttons of their humans. Making their mark on flooring, surfaces or furniture is one way of getting our attention. Clawing and swiping away at the interior of your home can be done in a way that marks their territory.


Should I leave my annoyed cat alone?


We all like to have a bit of peace and quiet when we’re feeling annoyed at someone or something.

A little bit of alone time can do wonders for the soul – and can help you get back to feeling your normal self.

Separating yourself from moments that provoke such emotion can help ease the tension and deflate the situation.

It’s no different for our independent pets. Providing them with space, and ignoring their quirkiness, can work out best for all parties.

Trying to force interaction, and invading their personal space, will only ramp up their emotions and could lead to an aggressive response.

Distraction techniques are a method that some pet parents apply to help deflect the tension – with small toys or water guns.

Should you make the decision to approach, ensure that you do it with caution. Make yourself as small as possible, to appear less intimidating, and to let your cat know that you’re not a threat.

Again, they might get all defensive if they’re made to feel like they’re being cornered at any given moment.



I’m worried that my cat hates me – Is this normal?


It’s perfectly normal to feel as though your stern-faced sidekick has got it in for you.

Their behaviour/demeanour/attitude can often leave you with the feeling that you’re unappreciated and unloved.

The chances are, however, your fabulous feline doesn’t dislike you at all and it’s more paranoia on the part of us pet parents.

It’s fair to assume that some will hold a grudge – and some will hold one for longer than others – but it’s highly unlikely that feelings of ‘hate’ enter the equation.

In situations where it feels like you’re constantly burning bridges, rather than building them, it might be wise to try out a few bonding techniques.

This way you can test whether your intuition is accurate or, as is likely to be the case, your cat has been completely misunderstood.

Something happening behind the scenes, completely unrelated to their relationship with their humans, will normally be the trigger for their behaviour.

Finding the source of what’s causing that hostility is key while remedying/addressing that situation in the best way possible will go a long way towards fixing the problem.

Should the issue persist, and the disdain continues to be aimed exclusively at you, then it might just be an individual trait that is bothering them.

It could be something as small and as insignificant as a scent that you wear, behaving in a manner that scares them (which can be completely unattended) or it could be that they don’t approve of your culinary offerings.

Being more playful towards them and increasing the time spent with them will often lead to a change in temperament and get your relationship back on track.


Should I seek veterinary support if my cat doesn’t respond to me?


Your cat’s behaviour – especially if it’s out of the blue and completely out of character – could be a sign that they’re suffering from an underlying condition/ailment.

If they stop responding when called, start avoiding interaction, refuse affection/petting/cuddling, stop eating, hide away, destroy furniture or household belongings and hiss or bite when approached, then veterinary advice should be sought.

If anything sinister is going on in terms of their health and well-being then the root of this needs to be identified and remedied as soon as possible before the condition worsens.



Patience is a virtue


Always be sure to treat your four-legged family member with kindness, love, affection and patience, no matter how they behave towards you.

Their actions are normally a sign of anxiety – or illness in extreme cases – rather than a show of disobedience or hatred.

They may have taken offence to a certain situation, a change in their environment or disruption in their daily schedule/diet.

Our crazy cats could be acting out because they’re desperate for more exercise/playtime, they could be reacting to boredom or they could have sustained an injury.

There are a catalogue of reasons for why our pets behave in a particular way, but vets are able to provide guidance and/or training methods to help change and curtail unwanted behaviours.

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